Cheating

What does it mean to dream about cheating, such as someone having an affair?

Crush cheating on me…

Dream: Why do I keep having the same dream of my crush cheating on me?

DreamsMaster: Your inner detective may be picking up clues about this person’s infidelity, or you may be feeling insecure in the relationship and your dreams are acting out a worst-case scenario. It’s also possible that some hidden part of you doesn’t want to be in the relationship, and you’re subconsciously pushing this person away.

The fundamental issue is about trust. Do you trust your crush? Do you feel this person is trustworthy of your emotional investment? Do you trust yourself? Do you feel you’re capable of being in a committed relationship? Consider these questions, and then watch for future dreams to provide more insight.

Fiancé cheating and threatening me…

Dream: I have had two dreams of my fiancé having an affair and or leaving me. The first dream I dreamed that he was cheating on me and I tried to leave him and then he pulled his shotgun on me and said that he would kill me if I left him. The second dream I dreamed that he left me and said that I was too boring and took too many pictures. What do these mean?!!

DreamsMaster: Let’s take each of these dreams individually, then look at the possible connection between them…

In the first dream, your fiancé is cheating on you and threatens to kill you if you leave him. There are strong themes of Trust and Control here, or more precisely, the lack of both.

In the second dream, he said you were “boring and took too many pictures”. If this were my dream, that statement would represent an accusation that I tend to be an observer in life more than a participant. Since your fiancé is your own projection in this dream, I would consider this being a form of self-criticism. Do you have concerns about being too passive in your life or in this relationship?

Considering both of these dreams together, the key question I have for you is, do you trust this man that you intend to marry? The follow-on question is, do you trust that marrying this person is truly in your best interest, or are you feeling threatened by a sense of powerlessness and lack of control in the relationship?

Our dreams are our inner detective at work. If you’ve been sensing that this man has been emotionally distancing from you or has been acting in a controlling manner that from the outside appears caring but on the inside feels oppressive, these dreams may be sending you a warning that this relationship is not right for you.

On the other hand, if you cannot relate to the above and you sincerely do trust this man, then these dreams may represent some deep set insecurity that you don’t feel worthy of being in a relationship, thus setting up scenarios to try to sabotage it.

Wife cheating…

Dream: I have had this dream 3 or 4 times of my wife cheating on me. What Is IT ????

DreamsMaster: There are a few ways this dream can be interpreted.

1) It’s possible your inner detective (your intuition) is picking up clues that your wife is emotionally distancing herself from you and this marriage, and this intuition is playing out in your dreams as her cheating on you.

2) It’s also possible that in the back of your mind you’ve been picking up signs of her having an actual affair, and your dreaming mind is bringing it to the forefront to get you past your denial.

3) Another possibility is that the dream is not about your wife’s feelings or actions, but instead represents your own insecurity or lack of confidence and sense of control within this relationship.

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Boyfriend cheating…

Dream: I don’t know why I keep having dreams that my boyfriend is lying, cheating, and eventually leaving me. I have faith in our relationship. But, these dreams are tearing me apart. Please help me.

DreamsMaster: If you truly trust your boyfriend and have faith in your relationship with him, then these dreams are likely a reflection of your own insecurity, or fear of not being in control. It’s as if you’re subconsciously pushing him out the door, perhaps thinking you’re not worthy of being treated otherwise, or perhaps operating on the “quit before you get fired” instinct.

If you’ve had boyfriends in the past who lied and cheated on you, then it’s possible you’re guarding yourself by preparing for the worst. Sadly, this approach may lead to the very outcome you fear – driving him away.

What’s most important here is to get solid footing of your own. Dreams of losing a boyfriend and feeling torn apart by it are a sign of you being overly dependent on a boyfriend for your own security and well being. The goal here is not to make those dreams go away; on the contrary, the goal is to allow the events to unfold and to not fall apart when they do.

The dream will stop tearing you apart once you recognize you can be whole with or without a man. In fact, once you gain this inner strength, you’ll likely stop having the dreams altogether… unless, your inner detective is actually picking up on some real (not imagined) clues. If this is the case, the dreams will persist until you “wake up” and stop denying the facts that are right in front of you – and take action to reclaim your personal power.

Housekeeper having sex…

Dream: I dreamt that a housekeeper was having sex with my husband.

DreamsMaster: From the way you phrased it, I’m guessing this housekeeper is not someone you know. If this is the case, then it’s likely this dream character represents an aspect of yourself.

How would you describe this housekeeper? What does a housekeeper represent to you? To me, a housekeeper represents someone in service to someone else. If it were my dream, I might be feeling as if it were my obligation to service my husband sexually. (Remember, this is only my own projection onto your dream, which I’m merely offering as a possible interpretation for your consideration.)

If this line of interpretation doesn’t fit for you, perhaps the housekeeper does not represent an aspect of you, but instead represents another person in your life. Is there anyone you suspect has been having an intimate connection with your husband? Another important thing to consider is what feelings were evoked for you in the dream. Were you angry? Interested? Disinterested?

One more thought that comes to mind is whether or not you have been feeling connected with your husband recently. Whether the housekeeper in the dream represents you or someone else, either way the dream suggests a lack of intimacy between you and your husband. The physical act of sex may be occurring, but is it intimacy?

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