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Middle of the earth was falling in…

earth was falling inDream: My boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot lately. I had a dream that the middle of the earth was falling in and he was hanging on to my hand for dear life. I saved him and managed to pull him up and save him from being sucked in, and even though I saved him in the end he left me anyway. I saw my best friend standing there watching. She killed herself a year ago. Please help me interpret what’s going on. 

DreamsMaster: My sense from the dream and what little you added about your waking life is that you may be harboring some guilt inside for not being or doing enough for the ones you love. In your effort to help (or save) your boyfriend or this relationship, you may have crossed a line into being the Rescuer, and when we cross that line, we can fall into the trap of the Rescuer > Persecutor > Victim cycle (google: Karpman Triangle), a psychological dance that can lead to resentment in relationships. This might be the source of the arguments you’ve been having with your boyfriend.

The “earth falling in” could be a metaphor for your sense that the relationship is losing ground. It could also be symbolic of your sense that your boyfriend is slipping away, not just from you but from life itself.  In the dream, your trying to save him from being “sucked in” could mirror the waking world of your trying to save him from something you perceive is sucking the life out of him. This might be a real danger, perhaps an alcohol or drug addiction? If that doesn’t fit, think about what else you may perceive as a danger to him, which you may be trying in vain to rescue him from.

Your best friend who killed herself is watching. She might represent your fear that your boyfriend is killing himself (either literally or figuratively). She might also represent grief and loss. And abandonment. It’s a pretty intense thing to lose a best friend to suicide. This layer of the dream might be a message to you that try as you might, you cannot rescue others from themselves.

Think about where in your relationship you’ve been crossing the line between helping and rescuing, and take a step back. Ultimately, others must help themselves. Sometimes all we can do is love them through it. And sadly, sometimes a relationship does not withstand the fall.

Stay strong.



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It is in our idleness, in our dreams, that the submerged truth sometimes comes to the top.

– Virginia Woolf

Being chased by a dog…

Chased by a dogDream: I have been having a reoccurring dream where I am being chased by a dog. I’ve been having this dream for roughly ten years. It changes over time but more or less the same. The dog is not vicious (although at one point it was), it just tends to chase after me. It’s sometimes barking, but mainly just starts chasing me.

Last night I had the dream again and this time it is like embedded into my thoughts today. This normally does not happen as I tend to just forget my dreams as the day progresses.

Last night’s dream… I was walking down what seemed to be a street. Next thing you know I see a dog staring at me. I begin to run away from it. The dog proceeds to chase me down the street. I end up jumping over a fence to get away. The dog jumps over it as well. I jump over other side of fence and so does the dog again. Finally I jumped over the fence as did the dog. We made eye contact and I woke up. I did not wake up in fear but i could not get back to sleep. 

Please if you have any thoughts in regards to this I would truly appreciate it, as I am beginning to think my dreams have been trying to tell me something and I truly have no clue.

DreamsMaster: Yes, recurring dreams mean that your innermost self is trying to send you an important message. And the fact that this particular time the dream wouldn’t leave you adds extra emphasis to the urgency of the message. You mentioned that the dream first occurred 10 years ago. Can you recall what was going on in your life around the time you first had the dream? This would provide the first clue as to its meaning.

The dream’s recurring theme is rather straightforward: being chased by a dog. Let’s start by considering what a dog represents to you personally.

Since I don’t know you and can’t interview you in person, I will offer some general ideas of what a dog in a dream might mean. See if any of these seem to fit for you, and if not, see what other ideas are triggered that are more relevant.

A dog is often regarded as “man’s best friend” because of its unconditional trust and loyalty. A dog is also dependent on its master. In your dreams, the dog could represent someone in your life, or it could represent an aspect of yourself. It might even represent both. Here are some examples…

Perhaps the dream occurs when you are dealing with someone who is somewhat dependent on you. It might be a partner, a younger sibling, or even a child. At times this person’s dependency might become a bit overwhelming for you, and you may have an unconscious desire to run away from the responsibility. You may also be feeling some guilt about this, and trying to run from that feeling as well. This could be one possible interpretation of the dream metaphor of running away from the dog – trying to flee from the perceived burden of responsibility.

Being chased by “man’s best friend” could also by symbolic of betrayal. In other words, the dog could represent someone you’ve trusted and that has been loyal to you has suddenly turned on you.

Now let’s say there’s no one in your life that fits either of these descriptions. In this case, it’s possible that at times you unconsciously distrust and tend toward fleeing situations (such as potential relationships or jobs) that may require a certain level of personal responsibility.

Finally, take a look at these traits in yourself: dependent, loyal, trusting. Do you distrust or feel anxious about these aspects in yourself? Have they gotten you in trouble in the past? Do you experience any fear of commitment?

An important common factor in this repetitive dream is that at no time are you in actual danger. In fact, in the last dream you finally stop and make eye contact with the dog. This could represent that you’re ready to face your fear and stop running from this misconceived threat in your life.

Start keeping track of what was on your mind the night before you have the dream. You’ll see a pattern emerge, which will shed further light on the dream. Once you start acting on the dream’s message, the dream will either no longer occur or will change in nature… don’t be surprised to find yourself petting the dog instead of running away from it!



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Penis cut halfway…

Penis cutDream: I dreamt of my penis cut halfway last night.

DreamsMaster: The dream is likely a metaphor for having felt “emasculated” or put down by someone in a demeaning way, left to feel “half the man” that you are, or “cut down to size.” Did something happen recently where you felt your power diminished?

A penis may also symbolically represent performance. From this perspective, it’s possible this dream represents some type of performance anxiety, either literally or metaphorically. Is there a situation occurring in your life where you’re feeling a lack of strength or confidence?

Another angle to consider with this dream is the connection to circumcision, which could lead to an interpretation regarding religion. For example, in religious circles, circumcision represents a commitment or bond. In this context, to dream of a penis cut halfway could symbolize the exaggerated extent of this commitment. If the feeling in the dream is fear or anger, then the dream might be sending the message that the scope of this commitment needs to be reevaluated to determine what boundaries need to be set.

On the other hand, religious or not, the dream could represent a sense of guilt related to sex or sexuality, with the penis cut halfway symbolizing a self-imposed consequence or punishment.

As you can see by the broad array of possible interpretations, the true interpretation of the dream is up to the dreamer. If you haven’t gotten that “Aha!” feeling while reading any off these possible interpretations, then think about what was on your mind when you went to sleep, and it’s likely you’ll easily connect the dots. If it’s still unclear, watch for another clarifying dream from your inner mind in the days ahead.



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Ex in jail…

Dreamed ex in jailDream: I had a dream I met my ex in jail.

DreamsMaster: Here are some ideas for you to work with…

First, is your ex in jail in the waking world, or was your ex in jail only in the dream? Also, what happened between the two of you when you met in the dream? Was it a warm reunion, or was there hostility?

If your ex actually is in jail, then dreaming of meeting there may mean that you have some unfinished business with him that’s drawing you there. How you felt in the dream may point to the nature of that unfinished business.

On the other hand, if your ex is not actually in jail, then take a look at what meeting your ex in jail might represent to you symbolically. For example, it could represent the feeling of being “caged” and lacking personal freedom in your relationship. Meeting your ex in jail could also mean that a part of you is still “imprisoned” or “locked up” in regards to old feelings for him. The feelings may be emotional attachment, or perhaps a lingering sense of guilt. If this rings true for you, the dream is likely sending the message that you need to release yourself from the past so you can move on to a more emotionally fulfilling future.



Infant just disappears…

infant Dream: I saw my friend’s 8 yr old son become a small infant. I held him in my arms and I am walking with her and suddenly the infant just disappears in thin air. I am bewildered yelling and frantically searching for the infant. I try calling my husband to let him know what happened but am unable to reach him. Then I see my friend and her husband talking and suddenly her husband gets real mad and cussing at her walking away. At this moment I woke up and I am feeling all disturbed and scared for the well being of the child. Please explain what I should do. I have seen dead bodies in my dream earlier to be informed later of a death of a loved one. I am very anxious right now. Thanks.

DreamsMaster: More often than not, dreams of this nature are symbolic and not literal, though clearly your innermost self is trying to bring your attention to something. Here are some ways to interpret the dream, and then you can determine what action to take.

Here are the basic elements of the dream as I see it, making up the core theme:

In the dream, your friend’s son regresses to infancy and then vanishes completely. Do you sense in the waking world that this child is being neglected in some way? For example, are his parents still babying him, denying the fact that he’s growing into a more independent being?

Both of the husbands in the dream are emotionally unavailable. Your friend’s husband in the dream is outright unsupportive and blaming. Do these descriptions fit these men in the waking world as well? The husbands in the dream could represent themselves, or they could be symbolic representations of your own father.

Although this is your friend’s child and not your own, he is under your care when he disappears, and it appears in the dream that you are carrying the brunt of responsibility, even though there has been no wrong-doing. Your waking thought is that you should do something. Why is it that you’re feeling so responsible in the dream as well as in the waking world? Does this tend to be your nature, to carry the emotional load of others?

If this friend in the dream is a friend in your waking world that you feel you can be open with, consider having a conversation with her about the dream, and sharing any concerns you may have about the child’s well-being. Take caution, however, to be clear about boundaries – be aware of where your world stops and hers starts – and recognize your own limits as to how much help you can reasonably offer, without stepping over the line and drawing resentment.

On a deeper symbolic level, the dream could be bringing to surface your concerns about raising a child of your own – whether or not you could rise to the level of responsibility, and whether or not your husband would be available and supportive as a husband and as a father.

There’s also the possibility that the child represents a part of yourself that craves nurturing, but the responsible side of you is afraid to let go. The guilt in the dream could be the guilt you feel about having any dependency needs of your own.

As you can see, a dream can have many layers of meaning. Only you can determine the true meaning of your dream, but hopefully you’ve got some direction about it from the possibilities I’ve presented.



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