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I dreamed of my father’s funeral…

Sunset - my father's funeralDream: I dreamed of my father’s funeral. As we were carrying him to the grave site, the coffin fell and he fell out of it, wearing the same jeans he always does and a shirt and tie. We rolled him over to put him back in the casket and once he was in, his eyes opened and he looked around as though to say “what am I doing in here?” but he never spoke. That’s when I woke up. My dad is 85 and still alive, although not in the greatest medical shape. I don’t know if I am suppose to prepare myself for something that I don’t want to happen. Please help if you can.

DreamsMaster: Yes, I believe this dream is indeed preparing you for something that you don’t want to happen. Your dad is aging, his health is failing, and death is imminent. Not necessarily in the next few days or weeks, but intuitively you know the day will come soon enough, and your innermost mind is preparing you for the inevitable. In fact, you have already begun the grief process.

Perhaps a friend of yours recently lost a parent. Or you may have seen a movie or read a story that involved death. There are numerous ways the outer world may have infiltrated your inner world and triggered thoughts of your own parent loss, resulting in this dream.

If your dad were young and in good health, then the dream would more likely symbolize your childhood image of him dying or becoming obsolete, representing a new level of maturity awakening within you. This level of symbolism may still be true, but based on the additional information you added about his age and health, the more literal interpretation in regards to mentally/emotionally preparing for the loss carries more weight.

In your dream your dad had the sense he didn’t belong in the coffin. This is likely your own rational mind recognizing he’s not dead yet, and perhaps even symbolic of your resistance to his dying. However, your intuition – what dreams are largely made of – is warning you that the time is drawing near. From my perspective, the takeaway message is to start preparing for the loss mentally and emotionally… first and foremost by taking advantage of the time you still have with him in the present.



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Begging me to take him back…

Take him backDream:  My husband who left me four months ago came back with dozens of long stem red roses begging me to take him back???

DreamsMaster:  I see a few possibilities with this dream. First, some questions to ask yourself that may help clarify the message…

– What was on your mind the night before the dream? This is going to be key to its interpretation.

– In the dream, how did you feel when he begged you to take him back? Were you joyful? Doubtful? Confused?

– How did you feel when you woke up afterward? Sad? Relieved?

– What do long stem red roses mean to you personally? Romance? Persuasion? Manipulation?

– Have you ever received roses from him before? From anyone else? If so, how did it make you feel at the time?

Sometimes a dream is merely acting out a wish of the heart. If you went to bed longing for him to come back, the dream may be your inner mind giving you the vision of wish fulfillment.

The separation occurred a mere four months ago. The grief is fresh. It’s possible the dream is a reflection of an early stage of grief, where your heart is in denial and trying to undo the experience of loss.

There are other angles to consider as well. For example, “dozens of long stem red roses” could represent false romantic motives. And let’s not forget about the thorns. If your ex actually did want to reunite, what would it take? Perhaps the dream is a warning to not be led by false motives, and instead to look deeper into the true reasons for the separation. Above all else, stay true to yourself.



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Skunk turns nasty…

White skunkDream: I am in my house. I have a beautiful white skunk in the house. The skunk loves to be patted by everyone and acts more like a cat, rubbing against my legs. Then all of a sudden the skunk turns nasty…biting me and others. I attempt many times to evict the skunk from the house and every time the skunk reappears back in the house trying to bite. My ex husband of 25 years appears, grabs the skunk by the nape and drowns the skunk in a lake that has just appeared. I cry because I didn’t want the skunk to die…I just wanted it to stop biting. I dreamed this 3 times last night.

DreamsMaster: A powerful dream with a powerful message, based on the repetitive nature of the dream and the emotional impact it made. Let’s see what we can do to unearth that message.

The skunk is the focal point of the dream, the main symbol to explore. I will project some of my own meanings onto that skunk, but remember it’s up to you to determine what fits best. As you read on, pay attention to what thoughts and feelings come to the surface for you.

A skunk is generally known for its guarded, protective nature. It’s also sometimes considered the ultimate pacifist, as it’s generally nonviolent and unaggressive and relies on its repulsive scent to ward off others that are considered a threat.

The skunk in your dream is beautiful, pure (white), affectionate, loving. More like a cat, which is often considered a symbol of femininity. This initial image of the skunk is warm and inviting, and easy to embrace.

Suddenly the skunk becomes nasty, biting. It’s as if this loving, trusting being has suddenly turned mean, bitter, “stinky”, inconsolable. Like a preverbal child, the only way it can communicate its displeasure or discomfort is through its behavior. I wonder, if the skunk could talk, what would it be trying to communicate?

Consider now that this skunk is a representation of you. A beautiful, gentle, loving spirit, with another side that is angry, biting, trying to get your attention. This “nasty” side is unacceptable to you and to others in your space. Do other adjectives come to mind for you in regards to how you would describe this skunk?

It’s interesting that in the dream your ex-husband takes charge of the situation by drowning the problem. Water in a dream often represents one’s emotional state. From your perspective, was your ex-husband someone who tended to suppress (drown) uncomfortable emotions, in himself as well as in you?

Think back to the events of the day before the dream and what was on your mind when you went to bed that night. This may help bring additional clarity. My sense is that the core message is about self-acceptance, and there’s still some unpleasant grief inside needing expression.



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Thin ice and mice…

MiceDream: For the past two nights I’ve dreamed of my deceased dad in bed. On both occasions he never spoke. One dream I was walking on ice that was about to break, but i jumped into the bed he was on and the ice stop breaking. The other bed dream there were mice infested in the room we were in.

DreamsMaster: A bed often represents a resting place, and since your deceased dad is in bed in both dreams, perhaps this is a way of you coming to terms with him “resting in peace”. The fact that both dreams are anxiety-provoking leads me to think that something unsettling is going on in your waking life, and perhaps you’re wishing you had your dad to turn to for help.

There’s a clear metaphor in the first dream: Where in your life do you feel you’re “walking on thin ice”, or in a precarious situation? You reached out for your father in the dream for protection. If your father were alive, what words of wisdom might he share with you to get you through this difficult time?



Water or ice in a dream may also represent one’s emotions. Viewed from this perspective, this dream scene could represent a fragile or vulnerable emotional state. If your father died relatively recently (“recently” is purely subjective), or if the dream occurred around the anniversary of his death or other event when you’re particularly aware of his absence, the dream could be connected with a wave of grief surfacing, breaking through the thin veneer of “holding it together”.

As for the second dream, mice may symbolize different things depending on your personal association with mice. From your description, mice infesting a room could symbolize certain situations or people in your life becoming overwhelming. A mouse may also represent timidity. In this case, the dream could be sending you a message to be more forthright – perhaps a trait your dad had, or would encourage you to have.

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He came to me in my dream…

he came to me in my dreamDream:  My dad died a couple of months ago. Last night he came to me in my dream. It was weird – it was as if I knew he was dead but standing in front of me alive at the same time. I went up to him and hugged him and said, “I took you for granted.” What does this mean?

DreamsMaster:  It’s not uncommon to have dreams of the departed, and it remains a mystery as to whether or not the departed can actually return to us in our dreams. That said, for those of us who have had a “visitation”, an experience that feels more like a visit than a dream, there’s no question that something unexplainable has occurred.

Regardless if you believe in visitations or not, a dream of someone departed still carries an important message. In this case, consider your words: “I took you for granted.” In what way does this statement hold true for you? It’s possible that you’re carrying some guilt or regret in regards to “what-ifs” and “if-onlys”, trying to redo or undo the past. This is a natural part of the grief process, but it’s important not to get stuck there. It’s likely your dream is giving you a nudge, helping you move on toward acceptance of your loss.



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