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Infant just disappears…

Dream: I saw my friend’s 8 yr old son become a small infant. I held him in my arms and I am walking with her and suddenly the infant just disappears in thin air. I am bewildered yelling and frantically searching for the infant. I try calling my husband to let him know what happened but am unable to reach him. Then I see my friend and her husband talking and suddenly her husband gets real mad and cussing at her walking away. At this moment I woke up and I am feeling all disturbed and scared for the well being of the child. Please explain what I should do. I have seen dead bodies in my dream earlier to be informed later of a death of a loved one. I am very anxious right now. Thanks.

DreamsMaster: More often than not, dreams of this nature are symbolic and not literal, though clearly your innermost self is trying to bring your attention to something. Here are some ways to interpret the dream, and then you can determine what action to take.

Here are the basic elements of the dream as I see it, making up the core theme:

In the dream, your friend’s son regresses to infancy and then vanishes completely. Do you sense in the waking world that this child is being neglected in some way? For example, are his parents still babying him, denying the fact that he’s growing into a more independent being?

Both of the husbands in the dream are emotionally unavailable. Your friend’s husband in the dream is outright unsupportive and blaming. Do these descriptions fit these men in the waking world as well? The husbands in the dream could represent themselves, or they could be symbolic representations of your own father.

Although this is your friend’s child and not your own, he is under your care when he disappears, and it appears in the dream that you are carrying the brunt of responsibility, even though there has been no wrong-doing. Your waking thought is that you should do something. Why is it that you’re feeling so responsible in the dream as well as in the waking world? Does this tend to be your nature, to carry the emotional load of others?

If this friend in the dream is a friend in your waking world that you feel you can be open with, consider having a conversation with her about the dream, and sharing any concerns you may have about the child’s well-being. Take caution, however, to be clear about boundaries – be aware of where your world stops and hers starts – and recognize your own limits as to how much help you can reasonably offer, without stepping over the line and drawing resentment.

On a deeper symbolic level, the dream could be bringing to surface your concerns about raising a child of your own – whether or not you could rise to the level of responsibility, and whether or not your husband would be available and supportive as a husband and as a father.

There’s also the possibility that the child represents a part of yourself that craves nurturing, but the responsible side of you is afraid to let go. The guilt in the dream could be the guilt you feel about having any dependency needs of your own.

As you can see, a dream can have many layers of meaning. Only you can determine the true meaning of your dream, but hopefully you’ve got some direction about it from the possibilities I’ve presented.

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He dreamed that he killed me…

Dream: My boyfriend told me about his dream and I wanna know what it means… He dreamed that he killed me but he has no idea how or what he did to me. He saw me laying there dead and he was really crying and so sad. And I’ve been thinking what does it mean, made me wonder a lot.

DreamsMaster: Before I begin to offer my ideas, keep in mind that this is your boyfriend’s dream, and ultimately he’s the only one who can confirm whether or not an interpretation fits.

That said, here are some thoughts. Killing is the ultimate exercise of power. It’s not clear from your message whether your boyfriend killed you intentionally or by accident. If in the dream the killing was intentional, it may represent a sense of total dominance or internal rage. If unintentional, it could represent a fear of exercising one’s power irresponsibly or losing control. Either way, the fact that he feels intense sadness and remorse is very significant, suggesting deep internal conflict. All of this taken into consideration, here are some questions for your boyfriend to ponder…

– Is he concerned that if he lets down his guard, lets out his true self, that this could somehow destroy the relationship?

– Is there something he’s afraid of or feels guilty about, that if revealed would “kill” you metaphorically?

Killing is such a popular dream theme that there’s a special category for it on Dreams.com. Check it out if you’re interested in getting more ideas about what it might mean in this situation, and be sure to include your boyfriend in the discussion before jumping to any conclusions of your own.

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Dream of getting lost…

Dream: I often dream of getting lost.

DreamsMaster: Dreaming of getting lost often represents resistance to something. We’re throwing obstacles in the way of getting where we’re trying to go. For example, if you dream of getting lost on your way to work, this could mean you’re unhappy with your current situation there and are resistant to going back.

To dream of getting lost may also be a metaphor for feeling generally off track and not in control of the direction your life is taking you.

Since this is a recurring dream, start keeping a dream journal and see if you can identify a trend with what’s on your mind the night before you have the dream. Is part of you striving to achieve something, while another part of you sabotages your success? The saboteur could be self-doubt, or it could be an inner wisdom trying to redirect your choices for the better. Watch closely… the message will unfold with time.

In each of us there is another whom we do not know. He speaks to us in dreams and tells us how differently he sees us from the way we see ourselves. When, therefore, we find ourselves in a difficult situation to which there is no solution, he can sometimes kindle a light that radically alters our attitude – the very attitude that led us into the difficult situation.
– Carl Jung, as quoted in C. G. Jung: Psychological Reflections

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Trying to rob the house…

Dream: I dreamed that someone was trying to rob the house and I told my older son to get into a vent and to not come out until I told him to. After the man left I was looking for my son and I couldn’t find him. I went to apartment 4 and I saw a newborn that looked just like my son.

DreamsMaster: Let’s take this piece by piece then pull the puzzle together…

House: A house in a dream generally represents your self, your personal space.

Someone trying to rob the house: An unknown person in a dream often represents a part of ourselves that is somewhat hidden to ourselves, also known as our “shadow”.

Told older son to get into a vent: Trying to protect or control your child by directing him into a small, confined space.

Apartment 4: In your waking world, is there an actual apartment 4 in your living space? If so, do you know who lives there, and do you have any association with this person? How would you describe him/her/them? If there is no actual apartment 4, what does the number “4” mean to you?

Newborn that looks like your son: This could represent a form of regression, and it could also represent new life.

Here is my interpretation, if this were my dream…

I feel threatened that I may be losing my son… he’s growing up, but I want to continue to protect him, keep him closely contained under my careful watch… but that won’t keep him from his ultimate destiny… I can’t keep him as a child forever… he is being born into a new life, perhaps entering a new stage in life.

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I dreamed I was falling…

Dream: This dream I had last night. I dreamed I was falling and I was so frightened. But I started to take control of my fear and landed safely. When I looked around me I saw cats everywhere and I felt safe again.

DreamsMaster: What a great dream! To have an experience of falling – the essence of feeling ungrounded, lacking support, out of control – and then to convert that experience into taking control of your fear and landing safely is a very powerful dream experience, which you can now take and translate to your waking world. In other words, you now know on a deeper level how to control your thoughts and emotions in such a way as to convert fear into positive action.

Cats in a dream commonly symbolize feminine energy, as well as power and freedom. To me, a cat also symbolizes independence (similar to freedom) and wisdom. More important is what cats mean to you. Think about how you would describe a cat, and then look at that description and consider how those traits may be aspects of yourself – aspects that contribute to your sense of safety in the world.

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