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He dreamed that he killed me…

killed meDream: My boyfriend told me about his dream and I wanna know what it means… He dreamed that he killed me but he has no idea how or what he did to me. He saw me laying there dead and he was really crying and so sad. And I’ve been thinking what does it mean, made me wonder a lot.

DreamsMaster: Before I begin to offer my ideas, keep in mind that this is your boyfriend’s dream, and ultimately he’s the only one who can confirm whether or not an interpretation fits.

That said, here are some thoughts. Killing is the ultimate exercise of power. It’s not clear from your message whether your boyfriend killed you intentionally or by accident. If in the dream the killing was intentional, it may represent a sense of total dominance or internal rage. If unintentional, it could represent a fear of exercising one’s power irresponsibly or losing control. Either way, the fact that he feels intense sadness and remorse is very significant, suggesting deep internal conflict. All of this taken into consideration, here are some questions for your boyfriend to ponder…

– Is he concerned that if he lets down his guard, lets out his true self, that this could somehow destroy the relationship?

– Is there something he’s afraid of or feels guilty about, that if revealed would “kill” you metaphorically?

Killing is such a popular dream theme that there’s a special category for it on Dreams.com. Check it out if you’re interested in getting more ideas about what it might mean in this situation, and be sure to include your boyfriend in the discussion before jumping to any conclusions of your own.



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Dream of getting lost…

Getting lostDream: I often dream of getting lost.

DreamsMaster: Dreaming of getting lost often represents resistance to something. We’re throwing obstacles in the way of getting where we’re trying to go. For example, if you dream of getting lost on your way to work, this could mean you’re unhappy with your current situation there and are resistant to going back.

To dream of getting lost may also be a metaphor for feeling generally off track and not in control of the direction your life is taking you.

Since this is a recurring dream, start keeping a dream journal and see if you can identify a trend with what’s on your mind the night before you have the dream. Is part of you striving to achieve something, while another part of you sabotages your success? The saboteur could be self-doubt, or it could be an inner wisdom trying to redirect your choices for the better. Watch closely… the message will unfold with time.



In each of us there is another whom we do not know. He speaks to us in dreams and tells us how differently he sees us from the way we see ourselves. When, therefore, we find ourselves in a difficult situation to which there is no solution, he can sometimes kindle a light that radically alters our attitude – the very attitude that led us into the difficult situation.

– Carl Jung, as quoted in C. G. Jung: Psychological Reflections

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Trying to rob the house…

rob the houseDream: I dreamed that someone was trying to rob the house and I told my older son to get into a vent and to not come out until I told him to. After the man left I was looking for my son and I couldn’t find him. I went to apartment 4 and I saw a newborn that looked just like my son.

DreamsMaster: Let’s take this piece by piece then pull the puzzle together…

House: A house in a dream generally represents your self, your personal space.

Someone trying to rob the house: An unknown person in a dream often represents a part of ourselves that is somewhat hidden to ourselves, also known as our “shadow”.

Told older son to get into a vent: Trying to protect or control your child by directing him into a small, confined space.

Apartment 4: In your waking world, is there an actual apartment 4 in your living space? If so, do you know who lives there, and do you have any association with this person? How would you describe him/her/them? If there is no actual apartment 4, what does the number “4” mean to you?

Newborn that looks like your son: This could represent a form of regression, and it could also represent new life.

Here is my interpretation, if this were my dream…

I feel threatened that I may be losing my son… he’s growing up, but I want to continue to protect him, keep him closely contained under my careful watch… but that won’t keep him from his ultimate destiny… I can’t keep him as a child forever… he is being born into a new life, perhaps entering a new stage in life.



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I dreamed I was falling…

Dreamed I was fallingDream: This dream I had last night. I dreamed I was falling and I was so frightened. But I started to take control of my fear and landed safely. When I looked around me I saw cats everywhere and I felt safe again.

DreamsMaster: What a great dream! To have an experience of falling – the essence of feeling ungrounded, lacking support, out of control – and then to convert that experience into taking control of your fear and landing safely is a very powerful dream experience, which you can now take and translate to your waking world. In other words, you now know on a deeper level how to control your thoughts and emotions in such a way as to convert fear into positive action.

Cats in a dream commonly symbolize feminine energy, as well as power and freedom. To me, a cat also symbolizes independence (similar to freedom) and wisdom. More important is what cats mean to you. Think about how you would describe a cat, and then look at that description and consider how those traits may be aspects of yourself – aspects that contribute to your sense of safety in the world.



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Go get the bananas…

Go get the bananasDream: I dreamed my fiancé and I met in the African village and then went to the farm and saw the bananas on the other side and my fiancé said to me “Go get the bananas on the other side of the river and bring them back” and then I refused and told my fiancé to go get the bananas. My fiancé refused and told me to go get the bananas. Then we saw a snake in the water and my fiancé bought me a piece of wood and told me to go and kill the snake. Then I refused and told her to go kill the snake. Then she refused. Then all of a sudden, we are in a tree and my fiancé is singing in the wrong notes to me. Then I saw my granddad and he asked “What are you doing in the tree”, then I woke up.

DreamsMaster: This dream appears to be illustrating conflict between your fiancé and you, specifically around issues of power and control. I see two examples of this in the dream, one in regards to fetching bananas (may symbolize sustenance) and the other in regards to killing a snake (may symbolize protection). Your fiancé expects you to address these basic needs, but you deflect back to her, and she deflects back to you, with no apparent resolution. Is this a pattern between the two of you in your waking life? In other words, do the two of you get stuck when it comes to negotiation and conflict resolution?

All of a sudden you’re in a tree. This could represent trying to rise above or escape from the conflict. To no avail, as the “disharmony” (singing wrong notes) is present even there. Perhaps your granddad represents your inner wisdom, recognizing the futility of your current mode of trying to escape the conflict. If so, consider this: What would your granddad advise in your current situation?



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